"The Sky's Falling!"
~*Asalam'alaykum *~
There’s no denying it, I’m a chat-hog when it comes to chatting with my friends online. I never used to be until more recently; when I was forced to keep in touch with my friends via the net or end up talking to my apartment walls with sheer boredom. Since my move to NYC for school, I’ve gotten more into the internet world of chatting and blogging and MashAllah even developed great friendships with solely “online friends.”
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Still, there’s one thing that seems to get to me every time. Some people I’ve come across forget that the disembodied pink (in my case), Georgia fonted typing actually represents a real-life person. Yes, we all know that the net gives some of us too much “freedom” with our words and thoughts, flirting and inserting too many winky, cutsie smilies, but how about those who think that chatting is always some sort of therapy session? Of course we all have problems and life can’t be “happy, happy joy, joy” all the time, but shouldn’t there be a limit to the number of problems you can discuss with just one person? Unless that person is a psychologist (*ahem* like Zahera…lol) or a psychiatrist, it’s not at all an appealing quality and truthfully makes that person want to avoid chatting with you all together!
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Good friends are those who share their companions both happiness and sadness; however, I think that complaining how much your life sucks, how depressed and upset you are because you couldn’t eat pizza today or that they ran out of your favorite ice cream at the market is a little too much. Especially if that's what is being dicussed every time.
Your life should not be an “’OMG, the sky's falling’” Chicken Little Syndrome.” I think some people need to take a step back and see what hardship really is.
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So next time a friend asks how you’re doing, take time to remember that some problems can wait, especially if they’re not imperative. It doesn’t mean your friend is being selfish, it just means that you’re being considerate.
Wasalaam :)
posted by MnM310 at 2:18 AM
15 Comments:
As'salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
SubhanAllah made me smile :) I know exactly what you are saying sis, but some people they just need their friends to comfort them and advise them so I don't mind, only becomes a lil problem when it dampens you too.
"He who relieves a hardship of this Dunya (this earthly life) for a believer, Allah will relieve a hardship of the Day of Resurrection for him;
He who makes it easy for an indebted person, Allah will make it easy for him in the Dunya and the Hereafter;
He who covers a Muslim (his mistakes and shortcomings), Allah will cover him in the Dunya and the Hereafter;
Allah will be in the slave 's need, as long as the slave is in his (believing) brother's need."
[Saheeh Muslim]
Fi Amanillah
Take care sis
Asalamualaykum warahmatullah
Very true on both sides.
A reminder for ALL of us: All Praise is to Allah, in Every Condition.
think i'm gonna post abt this on the "JE" blog eventually... it was in my mind..so i guess this is agood kick off.
Madiha hope you are well insha'Allah,(as well as everyone els) {speak to you soon ?}
Duas are requested
Walaykumasalam warahmatullah
CHICKEN LIL SYNDROM! HAHAHAHHAAHAHHAA i luvvvit!:-D
imsorry friends like that are like needy b/f's ... er g/f's lol or w/e lol
suport them..buti think at some point..it gets annoying..but still A frined in need is a friend indeed..and the hadith backs it up insha'Allah..khayr Allah may just give us the 'ajr of puttinup with it? But maybe a constructive way to help them out too wud be to remind them that Allah is always Listening, and regrdless of whats botheirng us we should turn to Him and ask Him fro Strenght and Sabr inshAllah
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Z: haha i was just playin w/ u bout u haveing to listen..i hope u know that! lol I agree 100% that some people just need to see the better things in their life. I think we spoke about this b4, where some people just crave the attention they get from discussing "problems" or some just get so attached to that attention they received when they were in trouble, that they can't let it go. Kind of like a drug habit almost. What they don't realize is that pondering on the problem/issue when its long gone and over with is keeping them "down," disabling them to move forward and appreciate life. I find it similar to going back to an abusive relationship constantly.
Sabrun Jamil: Hey WalaikumAsalam :) You're right and i agree with you on that..and like sister Anonymous said, A friend in need is a friend indeed, we should definitely be there for our friends. Friends though should be considerate at the same time and not use one person as their personal "therapist" all the time. Someone who they only speak to when they have problems....
VK: Salaam sister..good to see u posting ;) lol I'll make sure to check out ur thoughts on the JE blog, iA :P
ANON: LOL..u like? haha i coined it all by mah self :P yea sometimes you gotta take a stand and not let them step all over you. I think I do that sometimes, its hard for me to say no to friends... :/ Well fisabillilah :p
~* Wasalaam all & Thanks for your insight :)
"Chicken Little Syndrome" haha :p
Hm, I like this. Fits in with my new "keep silent or keep silent" approach to each day...which is failing miserably. hmph.lol
Very nice post sis, the internet takes my mind off of more important things in life sometimes. I agree there is a limit to what people should discuss to other people on the internet, too much information is never a good thing. Ecspecially these days. Salaams!
~Almira~
Madoha, you said "So next time a friend asks how you’re doing, take time to remember that some problems can wait, especially if they’re not imperative. It doesn’t mean your friend is being selfish, it just means that you’re being considerate"
Your friends are really lucky girl :D u don't keep nagging or anything :)
I always use Georgia font for my emails and blog posts!! :D Best font ever!
You have been Tagged :D
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Asalam'alaykum...
Khadiijah: haha hey no one said keep silent..thats like impossible! I know i wouldn't succeed. :p
Almira: Thanks sister :)
neverland: haha its Madiha, and I hope i dont nag...haha if i do please lemme know! Thanks so much babe! :)
Sarah: haha i knw its like the best ever! :p
neverland: OOOo Ima haveta work on it now! THANKS! LOL
wasalaam everyone! :)
I definitely have chicken little syndrome.
I was gonna change my blog url to therapysession.blogspot.com but i didnt.
Its hard not to talk about your problems like they are the most important thing going on in the world because lots of times they are, just in your own little bubble of a world and not the world in general.
Barrrrrrrrr I just had to post a comment since its been so long and this was all I had.
Sorry cuz!!!
bro'hood: aww Sorry i missed ur comment foolio! YOU like that one huh? :p
iboo lal: No you don't dummy! I agree that your problems are of course the most important things going on in your life; yet, if you always repeat the same problems or even that your life sucks, when in truth it doesn't, then thats where the syndrome kicks in! Foolio, i know you can have a conversation w/o lamenting about how much your life sucks everytime! mA you're a really positive & mature guy and you def. do not have the Chicken Little Syndrome, k? :D
wasalaam Bro'hood & Iboo :)
~ madiha ~
indeed. so often its about perspective, the ones feeling become the ones watching and its as if thats the only thing that can be seen. it takes a conscious effort to look outside of one's self, outside of the self-created lenses of personal hardship, to take a dip into someone else's whirlpool and get a feel for what 'different' is really like.
nomad: salaams...yes, that's the first step towards "recovery" now isn't it?
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