Saturday, September 23, 2006

{Chinese Proverb} Only Through Letting Go

Only through letting go can we truly possess what is real...

Sometimes we forget the importance of forgiveness. A little while back I spoke to someone who admitted to me quite vehemently that she found it hard to forgive others for any wrong they may do to her; whether it be a grave wrong or something menial. She even went as far as to say that she'd find it hard to forgive her family, including her parents. Its difficult for me to comprehend that a person could be so set on her ways and so hard in her heart that she may find it difficult, if not impossible, to forgive others for their sins.


A few posts { re: Reformed Players} back I mentioned the importance of forgiveness and Allah {swt} as Al-Ghafoor and Al-Kareem, Alhumdulillah. If he can find it in his heart to forgive the gravest of sinners, given that they repent and keep from committing the sin over again, how can we not find it in our hearts to keep grudges? In many families (yes, including mine too) people, even brothers and sisters, hold grudges for the smallest things! Their behavior is the antithesis of what Allah {swt} has prescribed to us brothers and sisters in Islam.


I tried to explain to the sister that forgiving someone is not only 'good' for the sinner, but most importantly it is healthy for the one doing the forgiving! InshAllah it is important to forgive and especially to forgive those that ask for it; and, even if they don't, then for your own sake, you should find mercy in your heart to just let go.


A relationship is built on two wings, the wings of love and mercy. One without the other is useless and eventually if this duality is not present, the relationship will fall apart, crash and burn, or whatever you may want to call it. So this Ramandan, inshAllah I pray that we all find it in our hearts to forgive. Its not enough to say, "Oh Allah forgive my sins" it is something we must really truly feel in our hearts!


InshAllah may this Ramadan be a chance for us to cleanse our souls and strengthen our imaan. Ameen :)




Anonymous Anonymous said...

to not forgive, is to carry its burden in this lifetime

September 23, 2006 11:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

inshaAllah ameen,

wow nice one:) i love it!

forgive meeeeee...

take care. wasalam

September 24, 2006 2:26 AM  
Blogger Hanna said...

Ameen.. Beautiful post, sis. If only everyone though that like - the world would be a much more harmonious place!

September 24, 2006 9:45 AM  
Blogger Ahmed said...

"For man with no forgiveness in heart, life worse punishment than death."

Mr. Miyagi, Karate kid II

September 24, 2006 10:54 PM  
Blogger Ms Molly said...

Really cute post, great inspiration to the start of this month..

"When my servents ask about me, I am indeed close to them. I listen to the prayer of every supplicant, when he calls out to me" (The Holy Quran 2:186)

Ditto to your end dua.. =)

September 25, 2006 10:26 AM  
Blogger Zahera said...

Ameen. Beautiful post :-) and i truly have missed you- but alas its still gona be a while till i can really catch up with you- im like a headless chicken at the moment.
Ive been thinking about this "forgive and forget" business quite alot lately- possibly due to discussions ive been having elsewhere about the concept. I agree totally with your post- i find bearing grudges difficult- almost like im still carrying the burden in my heart. I know some people find it hard to accept, but like you said- we are mere human beings and if Allah (swt) is most merciful then what are we in comparison? Absolutely nothing.
Isnt there a hadith which goes along the lines, "Have mercy on those who are on the earth, so that those who are in the heavens will have mercy on you?" :-)
Its a good thought to end this post with inshAllah.

Ramashan Mubaruk to you my darling- may Allah accept all your duas and forgive us all for our sins inshAllah. Ameen. xx

September 26, 2006 7:19 AM  
Blogger That Mash Guy said...

I've learnded this lesson through experience.

It's true.

September 26, 2006 10:09 AM  
Blogger Farsh said...

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.

September 26, 2006 4:43 PM  
Blogger Farsh said...

But then you think to yourself : It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.

September 26, 2006 4:45 PM  
Blogger MnM310 said...

b'hood: yea i agree :)

anony: walaykum'asalam :) of course..u aint got any fogiving needed on my half. :p

hanna: thank you :) yea wouldnt it just be easier like that!

ahemd: lol and who said t.v. doesnt teach ya nething?!

Ms. Molly: thanks :D beautiful citation from the qur'an..jazakallah :)

zeee: salaaaams :) i missed u too! and i'm glad ta see you're on a roll w/ ur comments again :p lol Wow, mA thats an awesome saying u remembered and i totally haveta keep that in mind for future reference!

Mash: well aH u learned the lesson and iA you'll prevent yourself from being an unforgiving person :)

farsh; subhanAllah thats such a good point you've made! It is so difficult to forgive the ones we love since we hold higher expectations for them. But then again, Farsh, thats when we're really tested by Allah swt. I feel that if you can look past your own hang ups and find it in your heart to forgive either a friend or enemy then you will be doing it for Allah swt. iA may allah swt make it easier for us to forgive and may he make our hearts softer. ameen :)

wasalaam everyone :)

~ Madiha ~

September 27, 2006 11:05 AM  
Anonymous zingtrial said...

Hi! we should all learn to forgive, if we our are looking for forgiveness from Allah then to forgive is better,If we find it hard ,think would Nabi karim s.a.w not forgiven those who treated him bad.yes he did in that is a leasson for us
Wish you well

September 28, 2006 10:24 AM  
Anonymous almira said...

Good postin Mahida its harder for me to forgive, something I have to really work on. :)

October 01, 2006 12:55 PM  
Blogger Khadiijah said...


October 01, 2006 8:18 PM  
Blogger MnM310 said...

zingy! salaam and I hope you're doing well too! :)

Almira: its good that you realize it and are iA working on it. More zhikir softens the heart as well :)

khadiijah: :D

wasalaam girls!

~ madiha ~

October 02, 2006 6:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

post then, dorkus :p

October 02, 2006 6:54 AM  

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